Never Give up. Never give in!

Please share some of the non-health issues that came about because of your cancer diagnosis.

Once I was diagnosed, all I could think of was my death. This is how society makes a person feel. A diagnosis means death. The media do not portray survival rates, and they emphasize the death rate rather than the survival rate.

Having a realistic chat with my oncologist, who explained the actions and processes needed for my treatment, gave me hope. He was professional and empathetic which helped restore my faith that we could beat cancer. My employer was also supportive and caring and played a positive role in building my hope and determination to beat cancer.

Why did you think the conversation was realistic?

The treatment plan was discussed, and the best option for my diagnosis was agreed upon. While there were no guarantees, it was reassuring that someone knowledgeable (my oncologist) was on my team and cared about my wellbeing and the outcome.

Following the doctor’s appointment and deep introspection, it was important for me to surround myself with a small close circle of positive people who would support my personal goals and the consequences of my treatment.  

My self-development consisted mainly of strengthening my mental approach to this journey. I found that the treatment had a more significant impact on my emotional state than what was happening to me physically. Knowing this made it simpler for me to navigate through my treatment.

I was fortunate that my medical aid provided a counsellor who called to check in on me and offered their expert team to be on hand for additional support.

I discovered that support for men going through cancer was lacking.  It could be because there are not many platforms where men can be vulnerable and share their experiences in a safe space. I came across a Facebook group specifically for men, which provides some key insights from other men who share the highs and lows of their cancer journeys.  

Their stories were relatable and give insights into how cancer affects relationships with children, spouses and one’s self-esteem both mentally and physically.

For me to be emotionally strong, I adopted the mentality that I would concentrate on strengthening my mindset, and I felt comfortable enough to entrust the medical aspect of the journey to my oncologist. 

I don’t let cancer dictate my lifestyle and limit my abilities.  I did not share my illness with many people, which helps me to keep my life as “normal” as possible.

-Terrance John

January 2022

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